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Mimi binafsi sikuridhishwa na hali hiyo, kwani ninaelewa swala la muhimu katika ndoa kufanya mapenzi ni kubwa zaidi kuliko chakula, malazi, mavazi, starehe nk. Ikabidi nipite kwa watu waliobobea na maswala ya Afya na Mapenzi, na kupata ushauri wao. Huu ndio ushauri niliopata, cha muhimu ni kuwa makini na mtu unayefanya nae mapenzi, yawe ni mapenzi ya muendelezo (ndoa), kama utashindwa tumia condom.
Kuna mtu mmoja alisema ya kuwa asipofanya mapenzi anaumwa uti wa mgongo!
Ushauri niliwapa, naomba shirikiana nami kutoa ushauri zaidi.
Mimi binafsi sikuridhishwa na hali hiyo, kwani ninaelewa swala la muhimu katika ndoa kufanya mapenzi ni kubwa zaidi kuliko chakula, malazi, mavazi, starehe nk. Ikabidi nipite kwa watu waliobobea na maswala ya Afya na Mapenzi, na kupata ushauri wao. Huu ndio ushauri niliopata, cha muhimu ni kuwa makini na mtu unayefanya nae mapenzi, yawe ni mapenzi ya muendelezo (ndoa), kama utashindwa tumia condom.
Kuna mtu mmoja alisema ya kuwa asipofanya mapenzi anaumwa uti wa mgongo!
Ushauri niliwapa, naomba shirikiana nami kutoa ushauri zaidi.
Health & Sex
10 Surprising
Health Benefits of Sex
The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the
bedroom. Turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined.
When you're in the mood,
it just might help your health.
How does a juicy sex life
do a body good? Let's count the ways. Here are 10 health benefits of sex --
backed up by science.
1. Less Stress,
Better Blood Pressure
Having sex could lower
your stress, and your blood pressure.
That finding comes from a
Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual
activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations, such as speaking in
public and doing math out loud, and checked their blood pressure.
People who had had
intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual
behaviors or abstained.
Another study published in
the same journal found that diastolic blood pressure (the second number in a
blood pressure test) tends to be lower in people who live together and often
have sex. And yet another study found that women who get lots of hugs from
their partner tend to have better blood pressure.
2. Sex Boosts
Immunity
Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with
higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect
you from getting colds and other infections.
So say scientists at
Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa. They studied 112 college students who
kept records of how often they had sex and also provided saliva samples for the
study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an
antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infections, than other
students.
3. Sex Burns
Calories
Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may
not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570
calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that
pound in 21 hour-long sessions.
"Sex is a great mode of
exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist. It takes
work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she
says.
4. Sex Improves
Heart Health
Having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long
British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as
likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a
month.
And although some older folks may worry that the sex
could cause a stroke, that study found no link between how often men had sex
and how likely they were to have a stroke.
5. Better
Self-Esteem
Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have
sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives
of Sexual Behavior.
That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex
therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she
finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel
even better.
"One of the reasons people say they have sex is to
feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with
self-esteem…If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises
it."
Of course, you don't have
to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about
you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a
great sex life may help you feel even better.
6. Deeper Intimacy
Having sex and orgasms
boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps
people bond and build trust.
In a study of 59 women,
researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged
their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that
physical contact with their partner.
Higher oxytocin levels
have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might
help you feel more generous toward your partner.
7. Sex May Turn
Down Pain
Here's another thing the
love hormone, oxytocin, does: It boosts your body's painkillers, called
endorphins. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to
improve after sex, that may be why.
In one study, 48 people
inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut
their pain threshold by more than half.
8. More
Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
Frequent ejaculations,
especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer
later in life, some research shows.
For instance, a study
published in the Journal of the American Medical Association , found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a
month, were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven
ejaculations per month.
Of course, that study doesn't
prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect
a person's odds of developing cancer. The researchers did take that into
consideration, and the findings still held.
9. Stronger Pelvic
Floor Muscles
For women, doing pelvic
floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean will enjoy more pleasure -- and,
as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel
exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop
the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.
10. Better Sleep
The oxytocin released
during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows.
Getting enough sleep has
also been linked with a host of other health perks, such as a healthy weight
and better blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been
wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.
